It’s Down
January 23rd, 2011 by librarianlibrarian
It’s down.
I finally took it down today. It’s not even the end of January and I did it.
I took the Christmas tree down, the Angel one.
Normally, I put up two Christmas trees. One has all the keepsake and traditional ornaments along with some not-so-traditional ornaments. I hang things like a pair of Lauren’s baby shoes and a set of her diaper pins (yes, she wore cloth diapers for a time when she was a wee babe) and I have a baby bib of Jacob’s and one of his baby blue hats that go on the tree. Then there’s all the other things like so many moms put on their trees: things the kids made in preschool and school, those ornaments with the year stamped on them like Lion King (the first movie Jacob saw in a theatre), ornaments from students I’ve taught, etc.
The Angel tree, I started it about ten to fifteen years ago after talking with LouAnn B. She told me about all the trees that she decorates each year in and outside her home, and her Angel tree grabbed hold of me and I knew I just had to have one. I started collecting angel ornaments that year from the local dollar store. My 6 ft. Angel tree is now covered each year with Angels and I have close family and friends who enjoy buying angel ornaments for my tree.
My Angel tree was particularly a favorite of my mother who died this past July. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s early summer of 2009 and within a few months she was living in a nursing home. Her last Christmas, year before last, we’d bring her out to my house for day visits and she’d look up at the Angel tree. Her face. Oh, I can see her face as she smiled and her eyes twinkled. That Angel tree brought her such pleasure.
She loved pretty things. Always took pleasure in decorating her home and seeing me decorate my home. And every year at Christmas, she loved my Angel Christmas tree. I have always used white lights on it and about six years ago, mama and I were shopping in McRae’s (now Belk) in Laurel and we found some pearl Christmas tree beads. They’ve been on my Angel tree each year since! It really is a pretty tree with angels ranging from a stacked marshmallow snowman-looking angel to a hand-painted paper bag cutout & stitched angel (made by Dee Young) to soft cotton muslim angels to shiny silver and gold wire angels.
We’d bring mama home from the nursing home for a visit during Christmas that year, and she’d come in and see that Angel tree with pearl beads, white lights, and all the different angels … Her face was like that of a kid in a candy store and a hundred dollar bill to spend. That tree brought such pleasure to her.
Every visit during that Christmas season, each time she saw the tree it was like the first time she had ever seen it. Her short term memory was nonexistant and the magic of seeing that pretty tree was new to her each time I brought her home with me.
Christmas Day passed and it came time to take the trees down. The traditional tree came down, but I just could not take that Angel tree down. I thought about how mama’s face lit up when she came to my house and saw the tree “for the first time.”
The Angel tree did not come down.
I think it was late February or perhaps early March before I finally dismantled the Angel tree that year. I kept it up for mama. She had no sense of seasons and no idea of whether or not Christmas had passed or was yet to come. But, she lit up when she saw the Angel tree and THAT was what mattered. Something gave her pleasure. Something made her smile. Made her happy.
So, Christmas season approached this year and I thought and thought about that Angel tree.
I decied I would not put it up this year. I explained to my husband and kids that I just didn’t think I could put it up. This was our first Christmas without mama. My plans were to put up the traditional tree and just pass on the Angel tree for this year. It would be too painful. It would bring back too many painful memories.
Turns out, it’s the only tree we did put up this year.
It wasn’t a difficult process getting the tree up and decorated. Not like I had thought it would be, although I did postpone putting it up much later than I normally do. Much, much later.
Putting up the traditional tree has always been a family effort, but my angel tree has always been a “me” thing. Something I do by myself. I enjoy taking each of my angels out of storage, unwrapping them from the tissue, and thinking of when I got that particular one or who gave it to me or how pretty it is or how soft it is or … I just like touching each one of them.
However, once the tree was up and decorated with the lights on and the pretty pearl beads wrapped loosely around and about the Angels …
I fell apart. Came completely undone.
It continued to be difficult for a couple of weeks, seeing that tree. I was sad, sad, sad. I missed her something awful. I found no pleasure in the holidays. I just missed my mama.
But. It did get better. It got easier seeing the Angel tree and I did enjoy it. I wasn’t always sad when looking at it.
And after Christmas? I couldn’t take the tree down!
Then I could take the tree down and my son asked me not to take the tree down.
So the tree didn’t come down.
Until today. Today, the Angel tree came down.
And, today, I am fine.
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